Fatal Kisses and Final Whispers:
To One Contemplating Suicide
Part I
These are your
questions, are they not? For they have been mine, too:
What is the purpose?
Why live?
Why go on?
Why endure more suffering ... I have reached the end ... and can see
nothing more beyond this unceasing pain.
My life is without purpose; it is empty, meaningless ... and tomorrow
will be the same as today.
It is over, ended, finished.
I am become something hateful, shameful; my life is a lie and I am an
imposter – the act is ended!
Die I must in any event; better sooner, then, than later.
Loneliness,
lost love, fear, shame, guilt ... which one has brought you here?
Perhaps all of them, yes?
You think I will tell you that you have no right to feel this way, to
stand here, at the edge of all things, the pain pressing at your back
and the warm darkness of oblivion invitingly before you ... the end to
all pain.
You think I will tell you that you lack courage, that you are ill in
mind ...
You are neither the one nor the other. Your spirit is torn, rendered,
bleeding, and no living thing on the face of the earth does not recoil
from pain, flee further injury. Not the smallest Sparrow. Not the
mightiest man. You have fled the pain as surely as your finger pulls
back from the licking flame of a candle.
And now you can flee no further. This is the end. The last refuge. The
only solution. You are driven to it as by the flails of some cruel
and unrelenting scourge. As a hunted animal you have fled down every road until your
pursuer has cornered you here, on the brink of nothingness into which you
would throw yourself as to a bitter but welcome end.
Tell me this is not true. Or is it crueler still?
We have known darkness, approached the parted lips that proffered death
in this last kiss, and with it, pain no more. In a stroke we would erase what we have made of our
lives ... look no more upon that broad swath of destruction our sins
have wrought upon others ... we would close our eyes and be no more, and
all things ceasing, blot out the blight of our existence.
I know.
I also know that you have stood here before, at this same chasm, lured
on by that same promise, spurred on by that same pain or one much like
it. We have decided that this is life, and we will have no part in it any
longer. At a point it becomes, as it were, an obscenity to us ... and a
scandal to God.
Why? Why do we feel this way? Do we choose to? Does reason lead us
here? Does madness? ... or do neither? Whence this deadly
whisper?
In reality, the question is, "whence this lie?" The lie that this is the
end, that you have no more to do, nothing more to give, nothing greater
to be? The lie that life is the obscenity ... rather than death; that
your choices are exhausted, your options closed, the game played out to
the last piece? The lie that death is the answer to pain, the refuge of
the wounded, a place of peace and the undoing of all that we have done?
Who has told us this? The melancholia of poets who dress out death in
Elysian Fields, until the soil has sunk where the body was laid, where
the corruption of flesh withers the bouquet of beautiful words as false
as they are frail?
I can tell you of many who fell at the brink of this death – not into
the fiction of oblivion but into the hands of God ... and found life.
You, now, tell me of just one who hurled himself into darkness and found
peace ...
I have stood there, too, and stared down ... and none returned, no voice
came back, no token of release, no sigh of suffering past. The dead
keep their silence, and who has entrusted himself to death and not God,
speaks no more.
Do not call down to who cannot answer (or if they answer beware: they
are not voices of men). Instead ask the living. The living who have
broached the lips of dreamless death, and spurned the stillness of those
lying lips ... upon hearing the living words of God, a breath of dawn
that breaks the sleep of death.
Awaken! You walk as one in a trance, blind to what he passes, bent only
on a certain end. Dazed by your suffering, rendered senseless by your
pain, you walk as one wounded, seeking solace heedless of whence.
You think that where you choose now to go is better than where you are.
I now ask you, who told you so?
"It cannot be worse than here", you say. Again I ask, "who told you so?"
"It will be an end to my suffering ... whatever it is." Again, yes, again,
I ask, "who told you so?"
Who has returned to tell you so? There are none.
There are only dark whispers in a deadly night, dark lies in a dark and
deadly land.
You think no one wants you, and you do not even want yourself.
But you are wanted, and valued beyond measure – for on
this brink to which your pain has brought you, a battle rages round you,
and you are contended for in an apocalyptic clash.
One voice will rise from the darkness, and one from the Light. One calls
you to life, one calls you to death. One speaks the truth, and the other a
lie.
"All doors are closed, save this",
the lying darkness calls.
"This door is open – where all others, save one, are closed"
speaks the other.
"Throw yourself into my darkness",
the one cries.
"Throw yourself into my Light",
calls out other.
"Into my grave!", the
one demands.
"Into my arms",
implores the other.
To which whisper, then, will you yield? To whose call come?
The living tell you: God!
The dead have nothing to say.
But God does:
Come out of the shadows, come hence from the lies and false dreams of
that darkness.
"Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead,
and Christ will give you light." (Ephesians 5.14)
And with the Light, Life.
"I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in
darkness, but will have the light of
life." (St. John 8.12)
Life beyond the pain, the suffering. Not the false promises of death and
demons.
Will your pain stop? Will your suffering cease? I do not know. I know
that you will have life and you will have light – that you will be
drawn out of darkness – and not into it, – brought to
life in the Light, not death in the darkness. Of this I am certain.
The pain? The suffering? The humiliation? The shame? What God will make
of these in you is beyond your comprehension.
Know this: God ennobles everything He touches. What is base is
transformed into beauty.
How do I know this?
Because God has ever worked the greatest of all miracles: He makes
Saints out of sinners.
Like you and me.
The world desperately needs
Saints. It needs you. Perhaps even me.
CONTINUED: Part
II...
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